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No one can stem the tide of
youth, for old age catches up with everyone. It is a global phenomena
and one that needs to be addressed. The aspect of elderly care gathers
greater significance in the light of the fact that families are becoming
nuclear and want to stay that way. Hence this is not only a private
concern but also a public one where the state or social institutions
come into play.
Let us take the domestic scenario. Elderly people at home contribute
greatly to the family environment enrichening the essence and spirit of
existence. After a certain stage however, they cannot contribute
actively to the family and tend to think of themselves as redundant. So
not only do we have to cater to their physical needs but also to their
emotional needs. This requires a lot of patience, immense understanding
and the ability to keep cool and level headed at all times.
Caring for the elder is always a challenge and the older the person is,
the more difficult it becomes. The sense of responsibility increases
manifold. Sickness and ailments is something which seems to follow them
and inevitably there are crises, which arise suddenly. A sudden heart
attack, a broken hip or limb, side effects of medicines which cause
allergies or respiratory and digestive infections which surface all the
time—these are just some of the things that we have to take care of.
During this time, in spite of regular work schedules, we have to make
time to take care of them and their needs. Understanding their mental
makeup and learning to identify signals, which spell their requirements,
are very important aspects.
Elders do not always air
their problems for fear of getting hurt, so learning to anticipate
and doing things for them before they ask is appreciated greatly. It
could be something as simple as giving a parent a hot water bag or
massaging aching parts and it could be something a little bit more
serious like administering the correct dose of insulin at the correct
time for a diabetic patient or rendering timely first aid in the case of
an asthmatic attack. Talking to them, cajoling them, and making them
feel that they are needed are very important. They need to be humored
and their views need to be considered in order to give them a sense of
importance.
Elderly care can be emotionally trying for both the cared and the
caregiver. On the one hand, the caregiver rues the fact that a healthy
individual has metamorphosed into a sickly senior and on the other hand
the elder parent or individual feels that he is robbed of his sense of
independence and is hence emotionally drained. Addressing this problem
is not easy, but reassurance has to be given time and time again to
reiterate the fact that the senior is not alone in his troubles.
Sometimes it may so happen that the elderly person may have to be left
alone for sometime or for part of the day. This can be agonizing for
both. The caregiver is always on tenterhooks wondering if the aged
individual is safe and worrying about strangers entering the house and
rendering it unsafe. The senior keeps waiting for the caregiver to
return. Loneliness can be very disturbing for them.
The other important factor, which is also very relevant, is how they
will fend for themselves during mealtimes. If they can cook, will they
turn off the stove and if they just have to eat without having to cook,
will they be able to manage to warm the food without causing harm to
themselves. If medication needs to be taken before and after eating can
they be relied upon to take the correct medications in the correct
dosage. The caregiver has got to think, anticipate, and find ways to
take care of all this. Balancing safety and needs without compromising
too much on independence is a task by itself. If there are other family
members to take care, the problem is slightly less and with paid
caregivers, the emotional quotient will be missing.
In India, when there were
joint families and people were not hard pressed for time, there was
always someone to take care of the elderly. Now times have changed. The
Indian elderly population is growing rapidly because science and
technology has created a revolution in the healthcare system and the
health care needs of the elderly Indian has increased. Poverty and
illiteracy have exacerbated the problem of elderly care and has rendered
them more vulnerable. In rural India, the problem is worse. In such a
situation, having to depend on their children to look after them brings
a lot of fundamental values and the principles of ethics into play.
Morally one is bound to look after one’s parents, but what happens when
the children are so poor that they cannot even take care of themselves.
They are surrounded by a sense of moral responsibility on one hand and
an inability to look after on the other. A piquant situation indeed and
one perhaps which has no real solution. The role of health insurance in
India and the old age pension schemes for the elderly are woefully
inadequate. Hence in such a set up to render elderly care without
allowing the seniors to lose their sense of dignity and independence is
very very difficult. .~ author Mini Swami.
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